The wait is inconsistent, never knowing when the next wave will come. Why? Surfers choose to bob about in an unpredictable ocean over which they have no control-and wait. Though it is a broad generalization and big assumption, I suspect that surfers are psychologically well equipped to manage uncertainty and the negative feelings associated with being out of control. Taking care of yourself by drinking more water than wine, choosing not to watch the news 24/7, being active to the extent you can be, and other self-care methods are healthy tactics to assert personal autonomy. Along with the Golden Rule, choice of language and tone remain selections within your purview. The way you treat others, particularly during stress, can be one of your most important daily decisions. Second, you always have the option to follow the Golden Rule. You are the only one who determines what that will be at any given moment. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” Your mindset will have the biggest impact on your well-being. Maya Angelou said, “If you don’t like something, change it. Understandably, these imposed limitations diminish our perception of control in our lives.Įven in times when we feel things are out of our control, there are things we can dictate. Our powerlessness over these happenings has forced us to cope with diminished choices and requisite restrictions on behaviors. Recent global events have hampered our ability to exercise control of myriad decisions, both routine and major. A few minutes around an infant will affirm that we are born with an innate need to have our own way. Rather a general desire to be able to make our own choices and exercise personal autonomy. I am not talking about an extreme control-freak personality disorder that is threatening or toxic. L e t’s face it-while the level and intensity may vary, we all desire to have control over our lives.
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